How do you manage 2 opposing ideas? Security vs adventure; contentment vs desire? What is the path to balancing our needs with our significant other? Love expert, Esther Perel, offers a solution: intimacy. Learn more from Mindvalley's greatest minds with Mindvalley Mentoring here: https://go.mindvalley.com/CmTON4dw
Quite often, we fight with the people we love for the very reasons we are attracted to them. The source of this conflict comes from balancing the two types of needs we are all born with. The first type of need is the attraction to safety, dependability, predictability, and continuation — the other is our appeal to adventure, novelty, mystery, and risk.
We often choose partners whose natural tendencies are aligned with our vulnerabilities — so that we are exposed to more of what we want (but are too afraid to seek out on our own).
However, this dynamic is what typically leads to conflict. Relationship and intimacy expert, Esther Perel, offers a fresh take on intimacy as the solution.
Rather than the intimacy we are familiar with (sharing the day-to-day life with your partner), Ester explains modern intimacy simply: into-me-see. This involves sharing the deepest parts of your being — your anxieties, dreams, goals, and insecurities.
With this modern take on intimacy, we can open up to our partners to validate, reflect, and help us transcend existential loneliness.
“The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives” — Esther Perel
IMPORTANT TIMESTAMPS:
00:12 Two types of fundamental human need
01:41 What is the very thing that leads to conflict
ABOUT ESTHER PEREL:
Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author, Esther Perel, is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world.
Her celebrated TED talks have garnered more than 20 million views and her international bestseller “Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence” became a global phenomenon translated into 25 languages. Her newest book is the New York Times bestseller, “The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity.” Esther is also an executive producer and host of the popular podcast “Where Should We Begin?”
#estherperel #relationships #love
Quite often, we fight with the people we love for the very reasons we are attracted to them. The source of this conflict comes from balancing the two types of needs we are all born with. The first type of need is the attraction to safety, dependability, predictability, and continuation — the other is our appeal to adventure, novelty, mystery, and risk.
We often choose partners whose natural tendencies are aligned with our vulnerabilities — so that we are exposed to more of what we want (but are too afraid to seek out on our own).
However, this dynamic is what typically leads to conflict. Relationship and intimacy expert, Esther Perel, offers a fresh take on intimacy as the solution.
Rather than the intimacy we are familiar with (sharing the day-to-day life with your partner), Ester explains modern intimacy simply: into-me-see. This involves sharing the deepest parts of your being — your anxieties, dreams, goals, and insecurities.
With this modern take on intimacy, we can open up to our partners to validate, reflect, and help us transcend existential loneliness.
“The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives” — Esther Perel
IMPORTANT TIMESTAMPS:
00:12 Two types of fundamental human need
01:41 What is the very thing that leads to conflict
ABOUT ESTHER PEREL:
Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author, Esther Perel, is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world.
Her celebrated TED talks have garnered more than 20 million views and her international bestseller “Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence” became a global phenomenon translated into 25 languages. Her newest book is the New York Times bestseller, “The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity.” Esther is also an executive producer and host of the popular podcast “Where Should We Begin?”
#estherperel #relationships #love
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